Monday, April 13, 2009

And Mom Guilt Creeps In



I have Easter let down.

Relaxed and uncomplicated is good. But I wonder if ours was a little too laid back. We went Fred Meyer at 4:30 p.m. for toilet paper.

This is not how I pictured my son's first Easter. Not that I had some big eggstravaganza (man, I hate it when publications do that) planned out weeks in advance. It's not like he'll remember.

Maybe a few days ago, though, I was imagining the three of us at mass in the morning. T Junior watching all the people, pointing to the other babos (babies), clapping after the singing stops. Then, we go home and I put the egg and sausage casserole in the oven and T Junior takes a nap.

When he wakes up, he gets his Easter basket. It is filled with all kinds of goodies, like colorful shiny eggs, messy green and yellow plastic grass, and maybe a stuffed duck or bunny.

Maybe we hit an egg hunt earlier in the day somehow, just to let T Junior watch the kids and socialize with our neighbor folks.

But that's not how it went at all.

Don't get me wrong. It wasn't bad. It's just that the day wasn't very exciting. Fried rice for Easter dinner anybody?

There was some fun. We spent a lot of the day playing with our son and his toys. He even tried out his legs, attempting to cruise a little. We sang. We danced. We laughed. T Junior tried strawberries. He got a bath.

There were no eggs, fake or dyed, no hunting, no ham, no annoying pastel grass or Peeps or Cadbury cremes. It was just us. In our house. With the constant rain locking us inside.

But.

Isn't that what it should be about? Just being around the ones you love?

I think, yes.

So why do I feel so guilty?

7 comments:

  1. First Easters are like that. When he gets old enough to dye eggs and enjoy the basket THEN you can really have fun. :)
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  2. We didn't do anything for D's first Easter, I think he was only 8-months-old. Wait until next year. It will be so much more fun. Don't feel bad. T Junior will have so many great memories with you guys. You are an amazing Mom and will come through when it counts and T Junior is old enough to remember.
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  3. Thanks for making me feel better! I have great mommy friends. :)
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  5. You feel guilty because you are a mom, and sadly, that is apparently part of the job description. Just keep in mind that we do the best we can and that he had a fabulous day spent with the two of you. It is only you that knows about Easter and the commercialism that is tied to it that makes us feel like we need to buy, spoil, and exhaust our kiddos. Holidays are like this anyway - big extravagant ideas that usually just make us feel guilty when they don't pan out. I'd say, enjoy the day you had knowing that your son loved every minute of just being. It happens so infrequently these days . . .
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  6. I think part of the reason we have kids is to live vicariously through them. Missed out on egg hunts as a kid? Then you'll be taking yours no matter if they want to go or not, lol. Stockings stuffed with joy? Because you're made jolly from from what you can do for your kids. When they're so young, it's not about what they want or will experience. It's all about the parents, lmao:)
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  7. True and true. Thanks guys!
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